DO YOU EVER FEEL LIKE THERE IS AN ALIEN LIVING INSIDE OF YOU AT TIMES??? ONE MINUTE YOU ARE CALM AND EASY GOING AND WITHIN A SPLIT SECOND IF SOMETHING HITS YOU THE WRONG WAY TURN INTO A RAGING BEAST??
WE ALL HAVE BUTTONS THAT IF THEY ARE PUSHED WATCH OUT! LIKE A JEKYLL AND HIDE…
FOR SOME IMPATIENCE OR WELL, ” ROAD RAGE” CAN BRING OUT THE WORST IN US.
OTHERS IT CAN BE JUST A WORD TAKEN THE WRONG WAY AND TAPS INTO THOSE PAINFUL PAST REMINDERS OF FEELING STUPID OR INADEQUATE OR WHATEVER TRIGGERS THAT EMOTION.
WE ALL DEAL WITH THIS AND IT’S A LEARNING PROCESS FOR US ALL…WE ARE NOT PERFECT BUT WE SERVE A PERFECT GOD!!
This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.
James 1:19-20
James 1:19-20
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26,
Job probably would have preferred that what happened to him, had never happened. This illustrates a PICTURE of “things we wish were different,” which consists of things that God has set forth in His plans for us, but which we don’t want. The answer here is simple: We must submit to God’s will. We may not like everything that God chooses for us, and we probably won’t understand all of His plans for us, but this is immaterial. As Christians, we have GIVEN our lives to Him and TRYING TO BE MORE LIKE HIM. Jesus followed God’s commands even when He would have preferred something different. In the night before His crucifixion, Jesus prayed:
And He withdrew from them about a stone’s throw, and He knelt down and began to pray, saying, “Father, if You are willing, remove this cup from Me; yet not My will, but Yours be done.” Now an angel from heaven appeared to Him, strengthening Him. Luke 22:41-43
And He withdrew from them about a stone’s throw, and He knelt down and began to pray, saying, “Father, if You are willing, remove this cup from Me; yet not My will, but Yours be done.” Now an angel from heaven appeared to Him, strengthening Him. Luke 22:41-43
Sometimes “problems” aren’t REALLY problems, but become problems because of our past experiences and/or how we look at things. It’s important to know the difference. If something is really only a problem to us, we MUST examine ourselves to determine if it’s really our own viewpoint that’s THE PROBLEM. THAT’S WHEN THAT UGLY WORD STUBBORNESS COMES IN…LOL
WHY WE GET ANGRY OR VOLATILE CAN BE BROUGHT ON BY MANY THINGS, COULD JUST BE HAVING A BAD DAY OR LACK OF SLEEP AND BEING IRRITABLE. BUT IN REALITY THERE MAY BE DEEPER THINGS TO LOOK AT:
Injustice—when people mistreat us but there’s nothing we can do about it, we get angry because we feel it isn’t fair. As much as we’d like to change the situation or the person who’s treating us badly, we can’t. People can’t change people; only God can change people. So it’s best to put our energy into praying for the offender.
Strife—which is hidden, repressed anger, begins with judgment, gossip, backbiting and thinking too highly of yourself. Strife is often exhibited in arguing, bickering, heated disagreements and angry undercurrents.
Impatience—often produces anger when we can’t get what we want when we want it. When our progress is hindered or slowed down because of others, it’s easy to become impatient. Most of us struggle with impatience on a daily basis simply because of today’s fast-paced world.
Abuse of any kind—sexual, physical, verbal, emotional or mental abuse almost always leads to anger. They’re all injustices, which eventually leave the abused feeling helpless and angry. Abuse of any kind can’t be ignored. We must deal with it and process it before we can get free of it.
Unmet needs—can also produce anger. We all have needs that can and should be met by those closest to us; however, they don’t know and understand our needs unless we communicate with them. But even then they may sometimes fail to meet our needs. Therefore, the answer is to go to God with our needs and not to other people.
Jealousy—anger caused by jealousy was one of the first negative emotions mentioned in the Bible. Genesis 4 tells us that Cain killed his brother Abel because he was jealous to the point of being angry. Although this is one of the more extreme results of jealousy, it reminds us of how dangerous jealousy can be.
In today’s society many people feel their status is dependent on their job or position in the church. Because of this mindset, they’re afraid someone else may get promoted ahead of them. Jealousy causes them to try to be important in the eyes of man. If you have this problem, understand that God has you where you are for a reason. He knows what’s in your future,. Remember, we must answer to God. Our rewards come from obeying the specific callings He’s placed on our lives AND NOT COMPARING OURSELVES TO OTHERS
Other roots that lead to anger include fear of confrontation, insecurity, and feeling controlled by a job or other people and their problems. We shouldn’t put excessive pressure on ourselves by making too many commitments just because we don’t want to say no to TRYING TO BE SUPERMAN OR WONDERWOMAN!!!!!
Sometimes we use masks to cover up the things we don’t want anybody to see. If we’re harboring anger, we think masking it keeps others from knowing the real us. So we hide behind a variety of masks in an attempt to trick people into thinking we’re something or someone we’re not. After all, people can tell when something isn’t right. You may think you’re hiding your anger, but it’ll eventually find a way to come out—either in voice tone, body language or attitudes. Some people use the cold-shoulder mask. When someone makes them angry, they may say they’ve forgiven them, but they become cold, showing no warmth or emotion in dealing with that individual. Other people like to use the silent-treatment mask. They say they’re not angry with you, yet they refuse to talk to you, or they only communicate when it’s absolutely necessary, usually with a grunt or nod.
Face the Truth…
If you want the great things God has for you, you must get to the root of anger and deal with it. Get rid of the masks and face the things that happened in your life that made you the way you are today. Admit that you can’t change by yourself. Until the root is removed, it’ll continue to produce one bad fruit after another.
We must turn the anger and the people who caused it over to God and let Him take care of it. …Vengeance is Mine, I will repay says the Lord (Romans 12:19). Trust God and He will take care of you and protect you. You can’t change your past, but when you give it to God, He’ll use it to bring you a better future.
Is Anger Sin?
Is all anger sin? No, but some of it is. Even God Himself has righteous anger against sin, injustice, and rebellion. Obviously, we’re going to have adverse feelings, or God wouldn’t have needed to provide the fruit of self-control. Just being tempted to do something is not sin. It’s when you don’t resist the temptation, but do it anyway, that it becomes sin. We must guard against allowing anger to drag us into sin. Ephesians 4:26-27 tells us, When angry, do not sin; do not ever let your wrath (your fury) last until the sun goes down. Leave no room or foothold for the devil [give no opportunity to him]. Refuse to give the devil any opportunity to get a foothold in your life through anger.
All anger, regardless of its cause, has the same effect on our lives. It upsets us, causing us to feel pressure. Keeping anger locked inside and pretending it doesn’t exist can even be dangerous to our health. I HAVE OFTEN HEARD ULCERS AND HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE CAN BE AN OUTCOME FOR SOME. Most of the time we’re only hurting ourselves, and the person who angered us isn’t even aware of it. So we must take responsibility for our anger and learn to deal with it. Process it and bring closure to it, and that will relieve the pressure. When you face your anger and decide to deal with it God’s way, you can overcome it.
Take Steps Toward Freedom
People are born to be free; it’s a gift from God. We’re not to be free from responsibility, but free to be led by the Holy Spirit. Any time our freedom is taken away or given away, we experience anger. Are you willing to go through whatever it takes to be free, or do you want to stay in the mess you’re in for the rest of your life? If you want to be free, just start doing what God wants you to do, one step at a time, and you’ll eventually walk out of your messes. When we are battling anger, we must realize that …we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places (Ephesians 6:12) . When Satan makes you angry, remember that he’s trying to keep you from accomplishing the will of God in your life.
In 2 Timothy 4:5, Paul told Timothy to be calm, cool and collected and to keep performing the duties of his ministry. That’s good advice for all of us. When we get angry, we should calm down and start doing what God has called us to do. You can be bitter or better—it’s up to you! If you’re mad about something, instead of letting it ruin your life, turn it into something good. Overcome evil and anger by praying for those who hurt and abuse you. Forgive them and be a blessing to them. It may not be easy at first, but when you make the decision and stick with it, God will take care of the rest.
People are born to be free; it’s a gift from God. We’re not to be free from responsibility, but free to be led by the Holy Spirit. Any time our freedom is taken away or given away, we experience anger. Are you willing to go through whatever it takes to be free, or do you want to stay in the mess you’re in for the rest of your life? If you want to be free, just start doing what God wants you to do, one step at a time, and you’ll eventually walk out of your messes. When we are battling anger, we must realize that …we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places (Ephesians 6:12) . When Satan makes you angry, remember that he’s trying to keep you from accomplishing the will of God in your life.
In 2 Timothy 4:5, Paul told Timothy to be calm, cool and collected and to keep performing the duties of his ministry. That’s good advice for all of us. When we get angry, we should calm down and start doing what God has called us to do. You can be bitter or better—it’s up to you! If you’re mad about something, instead of letting it ruin your life, turn it into something good. Overcome evil and anger by praying for those who hurt and abuse you. Forgive them and be a blessing to them. It may not be easy at first, but when you make the decision and stick with it, God will take care of the rest.
Psalms 19:14 Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer.
Psalms 141:3 – Set a guard, O LORD, over my mouth; Keep watch over the door of my lips
Matthew 15:11 What goes into someone’s mouth does not defile them, but what comes out of their mouth, that is what defiles them
Matthew 15:18-19 But the things that come out of a person’s mouth come from the heart, and these defile them
ECCLESIASTES 5:2 Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few.
EPHESIANS 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen
