Okay when you hear of the term “LADIES MAN” what or who usually comes to mind? A certain actor or heartthrob? or famous athelete?, Growing up in my house there was a lot of influence on Sly Stallone, Jean- Claude Van Damme, Steven Segal to name a few. Or from others I talked to it was Clint Eastwood or even John Wayne was a manly man
.From my mom Paul Newman was the man. 
I Came upon an article that interviewed a ladies man as to what made a true ladies man: Here’s what he said:
It is key that you develop a ‘selfish’ side to your personality
“I am the prize”
They know that they’re the prize and the girl is lucky to have them.
They are desired by many women due to their status.
Much of your status is actually PERCEIVED by people first, before they actually have any hard evidence to support it. (This is why I stress getting in shape, dressing well and learning to dominate a social scene)
Start putting yourself first.
Have you ever heard the old saying that goes like this: Women are like bus’s. Wait 10 minutes and another one will come by.
I am sure all of us men know at least a couple of guys who can be described as chick magnets or Casanovas 
Don’t allow a man’s charm, looks or financial success push you to compromise what you know is right
NOW HERE ARE ANSWERS FROM MEN AS TO WHAT “REAL MEN” ARE
A man treats women with respect. If you don’t respect women, you’re not a man. Period.
Believe me, women love to be treated like ladies. If you treat them like one, you become the man they had been searching for.
A man understands that greater happiness lies in helping others, not helping himself
Real men are devoted fathers not deadbeat dads!
a real man may think about quitting but does not and keeps going
“Don’t mistake my kindness for weakness”
a real man is honest – about who he is and what he has done in his life
-a real man speaks up – even if it is to say things others don’t want to hear
-a real man loves his family and therefore wants to protect them from harm. This does not have to involve fighting anyone.
-a real man has a true purpose – one that hopefully contributes to the wellbeing of others.
-a real man thrives not in competition, but in cooperation. Competition is based on winners and losers, placing value in it simply makes losers feel less of themselves and makes winners buy into the temporary delusion that they are better than others.
One answer a guy gave I thought was pretty neat
the guy who was crucified next to Christ became a real man breathing his last breath
Discipline.
Honor – Rarely do men of today stand up and take responsibility. Rarely do they honor women, treating them merely as numbers in a game.
To honor yourself and others is to respect your power, to respect others, to defend those who can’t and to do it all while taking steps forward every day, never relenting on the path you’ve chosen Humility You are a warrior, a hunter, a provider and protector.
Masculinity is being a protector and a provider. To do either or both you have to stay the course, to keep trudging along the difficult road that many walk, and you must do it without expecting reward, and without complaint.
Men want glory, maybe more than anything else, but it’s this pursuit of glory without seeking the affirmation or the awards that sets real men apart from fame-seeking ONES that dominate a society more concerned with image than substance
The narcissist. There is nothing wrong with a man taking care of himself, but be careful: If your boyfriend spends six hours a day at the gym and regularly posts closeups of his biceps on Facebook, you have a problem. Do not fall for a self-absorbed guy. He might be cute, but a man who is infatuated with his appearance and his own needs will never be able to love you sacrificially, like Christ loves the church (Eph. 5:25). The man who is always looking at himself in the mirror will never notice you.
If you are a woman of God, don’t sell your spiritual birthright by marrying a guy who doesn’t deserve you. Your smartest decision in life is to wait for a man who is sold out to Jesus.
I think a ladies man is a smooth talker, charming, and handsome
WHAT GUYS SAY ABOUT WHAT A GODLY MAN IS
They are not afraid of commitment because they are committed to God. They are faithful to God, so they can be faithful to their wife
Worldly men are most times cocky and arrogant. They boast about their cars, money, accolades and temporal things that have no eternal value.
Now I’m not going to say that Godly men don’t care about looks and body because they do. Men are very visual, but he cares more about your spiritual then physical. A Godly man knows that Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised. (Proverbs 31:30) Godly men are attracted to a woman’s love for Christ, biblical way of dealing with development and growth, chastity and purity, your humble and submission, your devotion to the lord, your modesty, meekness, biblical womanhood and femininity, and self control. Her spirituality is preeminent because He knows that you won’t look the same way in 30 years. He also knows that this will be the mother of his kids, and it’s important that she has certain attributes to raise Godly kids.
THIS IS A PICTURE OF MY GRANDPARENTS.. A FAITHFUL HUSBAND, FATHER, THAT STOOD BY EACH OTHERS SIDE UNTIL THE DAY THEY DIED. WAS SO BLESSED TO HAVE THEM IN MY LIFE.
ITS SURPRISING GUYS WHAT WOMAN ARE TRULY INTERESTED IN 
Top 5 Character Traits
84%
1. Faithfulness
More than 8 out of 10 women rated “faithful to me” in the top 10 attributes they find attractive in a man. A woman’s tendency toward attachment is a biological imperative, a matter of raising offspring right. Reassure her (often) that you’re not going anywhere.
75%
2. Dependability
Three out of four women say they look for a man who makes commitments and follows through. Being responsible.
67%
3. Kindness
Young women may still fall for the bad-boy type, but more-mature women are turned on by kindness, because kindness inspires confidence.
66%
4. Moral Integrity
Having the guts to tell the truth means to a woman that you have the guts to be a good, caring, decent partner over the long haul.
51%
5. Fatherliness
Being a good dad (or having the potential to become one) is about being a good role model—and about being patient and caring, qualities women like in a partner.
Top 5 Personality Traits
77%
1. Sense of Humor
Being able to laugh at the stresses of this world is a must, according to the women on our panel. You get bonus points if you can make them laugh. Humor tells a woman that you can laugh at—read, handle easily—the many difficulties that life throws at you.
55%
2. Intelligence
A worldly, interesting man is a man she likes to show off. Men who are take-charge problem solvers make women feel secure, and men who are always improving are never boring.
46%
3. Passion
Why have women always melted for musicians? Because rock stars are passionate in public. Women like displays of passion because they’re not accustomed to seeing them from men. Get passionate about something: IN HELPING OTHERS, It’s proof that you care for and about something beyond yourself.
41%
4. Confidence
A man who feels secure in his own skin makes the woman he’s with feel secure. By showing you can handle unfamiliar people or situations, you tell the woman in your life that she need not fear, either.
38%
5. Generosity
This is more important to women over 35 than it is to those under that age. Generosity, however, doesn’t just mean springing for dinner at a four-star. Your willingness to give your time and lend your ear is what women crave.
Being a strong Christian means standing on the Word of God, no matter what
For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7).
And a champion went out from the camp of the Philistines, named Goliath, from Gath, whose height was six cubits and a span [appx. 9’9″]. He had a bronze helmet on his head, and he was armed with a coat of mail, and the weight of the coat was five thousand shekels of bronze [roughly 125 pounds]. And he had bronze armor on his legs and a bronze javelin between his shoulders. Now the staff of his spear was like a weaver’s beam, and his iron spearhead weighed six hundred shekels [about 15 pounds]; and a shield-bearer went before him. (1 Samuel 17:4–7
You come to me with a sword, with a spear, and with a javelin. But I come to you in the name of the Lord of hosts, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. This day the Lord will deliver you into my hand, and I will strike you and take your head from you . . . that all the earth may know that there is a God in Israel. Then all this assembly shall know that the Lord does not save with sword and spear; for the battle is the Lord’s, and He will give you into our hands. (1 Samuel 17:45–47)
Of course, David’s size is not as important as his trust in the Lord. From a human perspective, David faced tremendous odds, and no one thought he could defeat the giant. However, David’s confidence never wavered because he trusted the Lord. After being taunted by Goliath, David fearlessly issued his own challenge in which he gave God all the glory:
1 Corinthians 16:13-14
Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.
Psalm 1:1-6
Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away. Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous; …
Titus 2:7
Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity,
Psalm 119:9-16
How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word. With my whole heart I seek you; let me not wander from your commandments! I have stored up your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you. Blessed are you, O Lord; teach me your statutes! With my lips I declare all the rules of your mouth
Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
Proverbs 27:17 Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.
1 Timothy 6:11 Fight the Good Fight of Faith
But as for you, O man of God, flee these things. Pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness
Micah 6:8 He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?
Praise the Lord! Blessed is the man who fears the Lord, who greatly delights in his commandments! His offspring will be mighty in the land; the generation of the upright will be blessed. Wealth and riches are in his house, and his righteousness endures forever. Light dawns in the darkness for the upright; he is gracious, merciful, and righteous. It is well with the man who deals generously and lends; who conducts his affairs with justice. …
Deuteronomy 31:6 Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.”
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through him who strengthens me.
Proverbs 22:29 Do you see a man skillful in his work? He will stand before kings; he will not stand before obscure men. 
1 Kings 2:1-3 When David’s time to die drew near, he commanded Solomon his son, saying, “I am about to go the way of all the earth. Be strong, and show yourself a man, and keep the charge of the Lord your God, walking in his ways and keeping his statutes, his commandments, his rules, and his testimonies, as it is written in the Law of Moses, that you may prosper in all that you do and wherever you turn,
Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
1 Timothy 4:8 For while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come.
Deuteronomy 11:18-19
“You shall therefore lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and you shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall teach them to your children, talking of them when you are sitting in your house, and when you are walking by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise
Ephesians 6:10-18 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm. Stand therefore, having fastened on the belt of truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness
Ephesians 5:22-25 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
Colossians 3:19 Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.
The difference between a worldly man and a Godly man is that the worldly man desires to please himself more than anyone else. The Godly man desires to please God more than anyone else. The Godly man has given up his own desires and submitted himself to the will of God. He is more concerned with bringing glory to God through your relationship. It’s not about perfection, it’s about direction. Godly men are not perfect, but their heart is set on pleasing God.
BUT THE MOST PERFECT EXAMPLE IS JESUS HIMSELF. OF COURSE HE WAS WITHOUT SIN AND PERFECT IN AN IMPERFECT WORLD, WHICH NO ONE CAN BE BUT STRIVING TO BECOME MORE LIKE HIM EACH AND EVERY DAY!!!
Now women I wanted to be fair and put us in “THE HOT SEAT” and it’s our turn next. What the world views are vs what God’s views are… Both men and women were created with differences, but it’s when we cherish and respect those differences instead of trying to change or conform each other is when we get into trouble.
As always, want to leave with you a chance, that if you desire to have a true real relationship with Jesus, not just knowing about him , but to really know him and have a personal relationship with him…..or maybe at one time you did, but pain, or life, or whatever got in the way and you want to reconnect, I will leave you with this simple prayer and let me know if you prayed that prayer, would love to hear and be an encouragement to you.
In his love,
Janise
